Gossip

i don't understand why people gossip. yes, again i shall blog about the evilness of the tongue. i realised that christians actually do gossip alot. especially christians, somehow....

hmmm..lets say given a situation, your friend got family problems. and told his friend. and that friend told a friend, who told a friend, who told a friend, who told a friend.................

my question is, if your friend yang got family problems that one, if he told one friend, how come that friend wanna tell another friend? and that friend let another friend know? what's the whole point? it's not called being concern for your friend or sharing your distress of your friend with someone else who pass it to everyone else. it's called gossiping. lashon hara. if your friend wanted the whole wide whole to know, he would've told them himself.

this world is so full of gossipers. i'm still surprised that people go round gossiping. i mean, kalau saya kan, if i was being gossiped about last time. i would learn that it hurt for everyone to know about my personal stuff, therefore i would stop gossiping. i thought normal people would react that way, you get gossiped about, you get upset and hurt, you don't gossip after that cz you feel their pain and understand how they feel. but nooooooo......apparantly you get gossiped about, you get upset and hurt, then you go round gossiping about other people, then they feel upset and hurt..and the whole bitter cycle repeats itself.

what's the whole point of gossiping anyway? it's not like it's fun, it hurts others. it's not like it's beneficial to anyone in the whole wide world. it's destroys self-esteems. it's stupid and immature and snobbish. the whole world hates gossip, because they've been gossiped about too. yet, the whole world still gossip. like dude..is this registering in your head? don't you see how unreasonable and foolish it is to gossip?

know what else gossiping does? gossiping makes you bitter. true right? whenever we gossip, it's all about the negative. we always talk about negative stuff, even though it doens't involve us or concerns us. but talking about negative stuff means being negative. being negative means making you all moody and emo and angry. why do you wanna be all moody and emo and angry over something that doesn't involves/concern you? -.- it's weird. i would think that people would want to be happy instead of bitter.

okay fine.. all the disadvantages of gossip is up there. what about the advantages of gossip? hmmm.. i'll list it out..

advantages of gossipping:

-improves your language

-so that you know about others (busybody! phat gua! *points finger*)

-bonding between friends

-makes you realise just how many gossipers are there in the world

isn't it just a pile of rubbish? list out all the advantages and disadvantages of gossip and you get this. so why gossip?

i wonder, have anyone of you ever thought about putting yourself in someone else's shoes when you talk about them. what would it feel like if others talk about you? would there be an outpour of delightfulness? would you be filled with joy you could jump around in the streets like crazy? wouldn't you feel awkward, embrassed, betrayed, hate? wouldn't you? i wish everyone would just think about this for a moment. that a few minutes of pleasure for yourself to gossip actually causes so much hurt for another. is it really worth it to gossip? wouldn't gossip seem horribly selfish and unreasonable? how selfish of those who gossip.

i know la.. gossiping is just something that happens. someting that everyone does. but aren't christians suppose to be different? to be set apart and not follow they ways of the world? what's so hard about taking a millisecond to think about the negatives of gossiping when you are about to spread rumors about someone?

heard about a preaching on this before. it stated that:

- gossip = making negative statements even if true / sarcasm

- the one gossiping: trusted less, possibly be gossiped about

- the victim: (gossiping is closer to murder than stealing,
gossiping kills one's personality)

- the one spoken to: also considered gossiping, even though only
listen and didn't say anything

- we are only suppose to make negative statements which are true for
protection of another, correction of a fact or counselling of another

- Leviticus 19:16-17 "Do not go about spreading slander among
your people. do not do anything that endangers your neighbour's life. I am the
Lord. do not hate your brother in your heart. rebuke your neighbour
frankly so you will not share in his guilt."

there you have it. the bible even told us not to gossip.

i'm not blogging about this cz i've got nothing to do (exam now la). not because i do not understand the thrill of discussing 'the issue of the day'. but because i want everyone to be able to read this and quit gossiping. my whole point of gossiping is that it is useless and stupid. and the devil uses it to destroy the victims and the gossipers aka, the whole world.




so?? so don't gossip liao la for goodness sake. for the sake of yourself/others, don't gossip la..



and i sincerly apologise to those i have ever spreaded a rumor about. sorry.. >.< =( if i could unwind the clock to stop myself i would.

James 1:26 "If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless."

(oh and if you guys are wondering about my previous post, isn't it called gossiping, it's more like..releasing emotions and stress aka counselling. yes, blogger is my counsellor. keng kan.....)